I never pictured myself with a big family. Granted, I never saw myself as a stay at home mom or homeschooler either! Right now I have three kids, which is not even close to a big family. If it were up to me, I’d have a baby every year. Today I’m babysitting my friend’s two kids. That means that there are five, yes five, active boys in my house. All it’s done is confirm that I want a house full of kiddos one day! So why would we want a big family in this 2.5 kids per household America?
Why Would We Want a Big Family?
Built in friends
My oldest two boys are 14 months apart. They honestly have no idea what it is like to live without siblings. They are seriously best friends, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. As a homeschooling family, I love that they have plenty of time playing with other people. Plus, they get really great practice in sharing. My three are all boys, and almost all of their toys are “communal”. They grow up sharing their toys, helping each other, and playing nice.
They can’t be the center of attention
Our kids can’t have our 100% attention all the time. There aren’t three of us. We have to split our attention between the three. If one is sick, the others all help to take care of the one that is sick. When Mr. C is doing school, A-Man and Baby M have to entertain themselves. We regularly talk about the fact that the needs of our family come ahead of the needs of any one individual. In a society where kids are growing up self-centered, I am hoping and praying that I will raise boys into men who take care of their families at all cost.
I just love kids
I’ve always loved kids. I thought about being a teacher before I had kids, and now I am blessed to be a teacher to my own kids! I know now that I was absolutely meant to be a mother. I love my kids more than life itself. I can’t imagine not wanting kids. Right now we’re waiting until at least June to try for more kids, and I’m going absolutely crazy without a baby in my belly!
So what about you? Do you want a big family, or are you happy with one or two kids?